Girl On Top: ShallonXO
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Girl On Top: ShallonXO
What happens when you mix Carrie Bradshaw with Dr. Phil? You get me, Shallon Lester, an author, editor, NYC It Girl and YouTube dating coach with almost 1 billion views! On this podcast, I’ll answer YOUR burning questions about love, lust, life and lip gloss—and everything between. Are you ready to...
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Evil Week Preview: Why Kindness Is For Losers
Work hard? Stay humble? How about…no. I’ll get you pumped for Evil Week with a sinister pep talk AGAINST kindness and hard work why you should flip to...
How To Stand Up For Yourself
If you’ve done some changing, growing, or even just WANT to, you may encounter pushback from people who need you to stay predictable and small. I’ll t...
How To Weed Out Fake Friends
This week's episode dives deeper into a recent YouTube video about friends who tell you want you want to hear…even when it’s not in your best interest...
When You Know Better But You Can’t DO Better
There’s nothing worse than perfectly understanding why a guy is bad for you… But missing him anyway. I’ll tell you why it’s ok that you can’t snap you...
Summer Reinvention: How To Start Fresh
It’s the perfect time to clean out our emotional closets and rebrand…but how? I’ll tell you how to leave things behind and cut out situations and peop...
Summer Reinvention: How To Stop Trying To Save Everyone
This week we're going to get inspiration from an unlikely place: Top Gun: Maverick. Yes, the movie. I'll tell you how one character sparked an ah-ha m...
Summer Reinvention: How To Stop Oversharing
Do you find yourself blabbing way too much and kicking yourself after? Well I sure do. I’ll break down why we overshare, what need it’s kicking up ins...
Embracing Ruthlessness: How To Get Comfy With Confrontation
Setting boundaries and ditching toxic people feels AMAZING right?! No. Not so much. I’ll give you tips to navigate the anxiety, shame and sadness of s...
In Defense Of Ghosting: The Real Reason Guys & Friends Ghost
Confession: I ghost friends. If you’re being blanked by a bestie (or a guy), I’ll give a counter point to what may be going through their head and how...
Grad Week (Sorta): When You Can’t Be Happy For Your Friends
This week I’ll tell you how I learned to stop seething over my friends love or accomplishments and how to feel confident in my own lane and life!
Grad Week: Why It’s Ok To NOT Be Ok
Stressed because you don’t have it all figured out yet? Trying to manifest your dreams but nothings really happening? I’ll break down the right way to...
Grad Week: How To Deal With Life After College
Graduating from college is terrifying and exhausting, but i’ll give you some tips on adjusting to corporate life, dealing with male-dominated industri...
How To Make Feedback Suck A Little Less
If you’re a recent graduate—or just a person existing in the world—chances are people give you lots of “feedback” whether you ask for it or not. I’ll...
How Long Should You Wait To Have Sex With A Guy?
Is a relationship doomed if you sleep together on the first date? What’s the ideal timeline to shagging for the first time? I’ll explain a man’s menta...
Booty Call To Boyfriend: How To Change The Dynamic
This week we hear from a Shalligator hoping to flip the script on a longtime hookup buddy. I’ll tell you EXACTLY what to say to change how he sees you...
One And Done: How To Get Comfortable Being Alone
After a week traveling solo around Paris, I’ll share with you my tips on slaying the dragon of loneliness and an easy plan to conquer your fear brain...
Friendship Breakups Part 2: When A Toxic Friend Won’t Go Away
Cutting off a friend isn’t easy…but what if they refuse to get the hint? What if they turn toxic and try to ruin your other friendships? I’ll give you...
Friendship Breakups & Makeups: How To Reconnect…And When Not To
Looking to get back in touch with a bestie? Well, maybe there’s a reason you unplugged in the first place. Using tips from our book club selection, “E...
Hot Pursuit: How To Get A Guy To Chase You Again
Did your boyfriend’s efforts drop off once he “got” you? I’ll tell you how to re-ignite his need to hunt you down WITHOUT having to grovel, beg or pla...
The Cons (And More Cons) of Workplace Romances
Love being poor? And overworked and overlooked? Amazing! Then definitely start or continue that on-the-job flirtation! I’m breaking down office flings...
College Daze: The ONE Word I’d Tell My Younger Self
A question from a sorority-saturated Shalligator and my own trip to my college town reminded me that I wasn’t always a warm blooded alpha female—quite...
The Friendship Closet Clean-Out: Making New Friends Post-Covid
As the world gets back to pre-pandemic normal, I’ll tell you how to over ride fear, take bold new chances and friend smarter, not harder!
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Frenemy Fixation: Unpacking A Female Hurtlocker
We know Hurt Lockers as those guys we just cannot get over…but what if your obsession is a friend? If you’re gnawing on a frenemy who treated you poor...
Are You Gucci or Garage Sale? High Self Esteem & Low Self Worth, Part 2
Last episode we unpacked the bizarre and exhausting feeling of having high self esteem but low self worth. This week, I'll tell you how to dig yoursel...
Are You Gucci or Garage Sale? High Self Esteem & Low Self Worth, Part 1
Do you feel burnt out dating? Exhausted by men? Bitter and resentful? There’s a reason: you have high self esteem but low self worth. This week I’ll b...
The Horror Of Catching Feelings: How Not To Blow It
Summer is in full swing… and burnout might be too. I’ll tell you how burnout can trick you into thinking you’re falling for someone, and help set boun...
The Do’s & Don’ts of a Successful Summer Fling
Who doesn’t want to have a hot girl summer? But there’s a right way and a wrong way to have a summer fling. I’ll break down the definition of a succes...
No More Disrespect: 4 Magic Words That Make A Guy Change
Tired of talking yourself to death about your feelings and boundaries when a guy is disrespectful? I will give you four (science backed!) magic words...
Lean Back Part 2: The Benefits of Burnout
Last week we talked about when to stop leaning in and take a pause to lean back, and this week we’ll outline 4 steps to cope with burnout and use it a...
Screw Your Lean In: The Necessary Art of Leaning Back
There’s a time to lean in…but there’s a time to step away. If you’re feeling anxious about reentering society, burnt out on socialization, exhausted b...
Hot Girl Summer: Small Boobs and Big Bucks
We all want to have a hot girl summer but…what exactly does that mean? For me, it means not needing approval or rescuing from any guy or even society....
Friends In Low Places: When Everyone You Know Is Coupled Up
Putting yourself out there is crucial to making friends…but what do you do when your coupled up galpals aren’t reciprocating the effort? This week we’...
How To Get The Guy: Turning A Booty Call Into A Boyfriend
This week on YouTube I explained why silence is your main weapon if you want an ex back, but here we’ll delve a little deeper into the strategy behind...
The One Who Got Away: How To Let Go Of Past Regret
This week we talk to a Shalligator who wants to rekindle things with a guy she rejected (twice!) and another who wants her husband to morph back into...
Spring Cleaning: Why Alpha Females Don’t Chase Guys
With summer around the corner, it’s easy to have spring fever about boys and dating. But before you start swiping, texting or hooking up, I’ll give yo...
Tinder 101: Red Flags You Shouldn’t Ignore
Dating apps are a great way to meet guys…and an excellent way to completely waste your time with f*ckboys! I’ll tell you red flags to look for in a bo...
Defeating Your Inner Neurotic & Coping With Change You Don’t Want
Change sucks. Change is the worst when it’s change you didn’t particularly ask for...but isn’t MOST change out of your control? I’ll give you five tip...
Finding Friends For Your Boyfriend...And Yourself
Do you find yourself attracting guys who don’t really have a social life of their own? Or are your “friends” flaky, frazzled and forgettable? I’ll giv...
How To Be Happy Even When Things Go Wrong
We should all be visualizing what we want out of our future but what do you do when imagination goes bad? If you struggle with romanticizing things at...
Spring Cleaning: Beta Males & Business Blahs
This week, we’ll break down the psychology of beta males who neg amazing women, plus share some lessons from our Shalliterature book club selection, “...