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How Can I Say This...
The “How Can I Say This…” podcast offers tips and advice for interpersonal communications challenges, such as difficult conversations, conflict, giving and receiving feedback, negotiating, and other situations where what you say and how you say it makes all the difference.Your host is Beth Buelow, P...
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Claiming Space with Eliza VanCort
As the vintage advertising for Virginia Slims cigarettes told women, you’ve come a long way, baby. Women have carved out a bigger seat at the table ov...
Pausing and People Pleasing with Alan Heymann
There are lots of things that get in the way of our ability to successfully handle conflict. They often have to do with a limiting mindset, a leaning...
The Language of DEI with Arlene Koth
Whether we’re aware of it or not, the past year has introduced most everyone to a new language. Words that we used in one context, such as equality, e...
How to Talk to Strangers (Listener Question)
We spend a lot of time thinking about how to have conversations with people we care about. After all, these are the relationships that have the bigges...
How are you? as a gateway to connection
It’s a reflexive question most of us ask when we start a conversation, and it’s one of the easiest and most challenging questions to answer: how are y...
Calming Your Nerves (Listener Question)
It happens to all of us, no matter how many times we’ve been in a difficult conversation: we get nervous. We feel stress. That stress can show up in l...
Acknowledging the Good in the Bad
How can I say this? When you have a day like January 6, 2021 in the United States, it’s hard to know what to say. It left many of us speechless, then...
The Art of Letting Go
While every year has its ups and downs, 2020 will go down as an especially interesting year for lots of reasons. Our everyday vocabulary expanded to i...
How to have meaningful virtual conversations with Jennifer Britton
For those of us that grew up with a rotary telephone glued to the wall and no answering machine, the idea of being connected 24/7 everywhere we go sti...
Talking about Race at Work with Kwame Christian
Awkward, emotional, uncomfortable. This is how many of us feel when we try to talk about race. But we need to know how to have these conversations if...
Using Reflective Inquiry for Better Conversations with Marcia Reynolds
A coaching client recently reminded me of a truth that’s easy to forget: if you want to have a great conversation with someone, focus on trying to be...
Couples Communication in Quarantine with Marianne van Dijk
As life in the pandemic continues, our capacity for empathy and connection can come and go. Sometimes it’s easy to be present for our loved ones, and...
Creating a Communication-Friendly Space with Rebecca West
We all know that our physical surroundings influence our mood and ability to focus. But do we fully appreciate how much they affect our communication?...
Liars and Stonewallers: Listener Questions
If you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while, you know that on the surface we talk about communication, but underneath that, we’re really talk...
Mori Taheripour Shares How to Bring Yourself to Negotiations
When we think of negotiators, we often think of people who are trying to find a bargain, job seekers, or people on the front lines of a hostage situat...
A Simple Mantra for a Complex Time
When we’re in close quarters with someone for a long time, even the strongest of relationships can be tested. In this episode, I offer you a simple ma...
Difficult Conversations with Kern Beare
It’s a phrase I’ve heard over and over these past few years: there’s no point in trying to talk to them. Them is always the person with whom we have s...
These 7 Words are Undermining Your Effectiveness
When we think of forming new habits, our minds go to the obvious – changing what we eat, how much we exercise, what time we go to bed or get up in the...
Humor: Helpful or Harmful?
There are many ways to evaluate the health of a social connection. We know to notice eye contact, body language, tone of voice and balance of listenin...
Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety with Michelle Barry Franco
There’s a widely circulated saying that people fear public speaking more than death. That funny but misguided bit of trivia distracts us from the oppo...
Ep61: Words Create Worlds
"Almost all words do have color and nothing is more pleasant than to utter a pink word and see someone's eyes light up and know it is a pink word for...
Ep60: Ending the Shame Game
You’ve messed up. You feel embarrassed, you know what you did was a mistake, and you own up to it. You say you’re sorry. And even though you acknowled...
Ep59: Working with Disrespectful Colleagues (Listener Question)
Being successful in our professional lives depends on lots of people agreeing on certain principles. Show up on time. Follow through. Take your respon...
Ep58: Making Your Private Beliefs Public
On February 20, 1954, Albert Einstein said the following during an address to the Chicago Decalogue Society: “…in long intervals I have expressed an o...
Ep57: Avoiding Conflict During Thanksgiving
It’s that time of year, when we look forward to food, drink, and time with people we care about. It’s also when we might dread time with people we car...
Ep56: Staying Civil on Social Media
Once upon a time, if we were upset or disagreed with a person, policy or decision, our thoughts on the matter rippled out maybe as far as our second-...
Ep55: De-Escalating Internal Anger
There are lots of mantras I live by, including "I’m open to outcome, not attached," and "I can handle whatever happens." I’ve recently adopted a new m...
Ep54: Anatomy of an Interaction
How many times have you been in a conversation and the other person says or does something unexpected or hostile, and you think to yourself – where di...
Ep53: When It Gets Personal (Listener Question with guest Arden Clise)
If we hang around with someone long enough, there are little things that pop up that can distract us from heart of the relationship. It might be the w...
Ep52: Disagreeing Without Being Disagreeable
When we hear someone make a statement that’s not true, or express a personal opinion that cuts us to the core, it’s easy to react by lashing out and a...
Ep51: Surviving Small Talk
Most people dread it. Some people avoid it at all costs. We’ll skip the networking events, duck behind a big display in the store, or avoid eye contac...
Ep50: Drama Queens (Listener Question)
A listener asks: How do you deal with a drama queen when they are a close friend? How do you know it is someone being a drama queen and not you being...
Ep49: Expressing Feelings at Work with Melanie Katzman
There are lots of “F” words that we’re supposed to avoid in the workplace. Fear. Failure. Flirting. Fighting. And of course, the word to end all “F” w...
Ep48: Two Lessons from The Art of Gathering
How many meetings or events have you attended this past week? Maybe you’ve invited people over for dinner, been to a birthday party, or you’ve gotten...
Ep47: Cultivating Conversational Intelligence with Michael O'Brien
Sometimes our journey towards greater self-awareness seems slow and ponderous. And other times, life decides to hit the fast-forward button and give u...
Ep46: Cross-Cultural Communication with Susan Shirley
When we think of traveling outside our native country, we usually consider the obvious differences we’ll experience: language, food, clothing, archite...
Ep45: Poetry to Grieve By
Today is Friday, August 9, 2019, and it’s been a rough week. I’ve found that I haven’t had much to say. The news and its tragedies have overwhelmed me...
Ep44: Generational and Gender Communication Differences with Lee Caraher
When I tell you I’m "going to get back to you by the end of the day," what does that mean to you? And what about how you interpret “get back to you?”...
Ep43: Deep Listening with Oscar Trimboli
We spend 55% of our time in an average day listening; but what are we really doing? Are we attentive? Fully present? Passive? Distracted? Waiting unti...
Ep42: Flipping Failure with Sarah McVanel Part 2
Failure. It’s something we avoid as adults, equating it with incompetence, lack of effort or resources, bad ideas, faulty execution, and a sign that w...